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The main question I asked myself before enrolling in the year-long course on systemic constellations was, “For What?”

Not “Why”, but “For What”

Various answers came to mind.

First, I wanted to meet and learn from the renowned teachers of systemic constellations, whom I had heard about but had not had the opportunity to study with for various reasons.

Second, I had a desire to expand my practice, to lead more groups in constellations.

The third, and perhaps the most significant answer, came to me toward the end of the training. I wanted to find a deeper connection with myself, my own strength, and my unique style as a systemic constellations facilitator. I aimed to see more clearly what constellations meant to me personally, and to find my path in facilitating systemic constellations, relying not only on techniques but on something greater.

I can now say that I found the answer to the third question precisely in this training.

Being in the presence of internationally acclaimed teachers, I needed the courage to take what truly resonated with me and respectfully set aside what didn’t, at least for now. It was a new experience for me. “What I have is enough for now, even if it’s just one phrase.”

During this course, my focus and learning shifted towards understanding the inner state required for a facilitator and what is necessary to allow healing to occur for the client through the constellations.

I frequently heard from colleagues, especially those new to this method, that they lacked techniques, the “how-to” of conducting a constellation – where to place what, what kind of setting to use. There was much disappointment in the attempts to grasp how it all works.

For me, the question had evolved differently. It became about the state I needed to be in for the healing to find its place in the client’s life. I already had a sufficient grasp of the techniques, but at some point, I discovered that it wasn’t enough. Something more was required, something that transcended the realm of logic and control.

The practice groups, organized by the students themselves, became a valuable resource and a supportive space where everyone could experiment and manifest their own style in conducting constellations.

Students from all corners of the world, just like the teachers, were part of these groups.

The organization of the seminars was impeccable, everything was on time and without delays. Perhaps this demanded significant efforts from the organizer of the training itself, as a lot of students’s energy was invested in awaiting answers to our questions, which added a bit of chaos to the process. What I found, that it reminds life at some point) and helped me to be more aware of my own life.

Towards the end of the training, I also discovered that I had found two teachers with whom I wanted to continue my study of systemic constellations, but with a different focus. It would involve less learning and more work with people, both in groups and individually. It indicated a different readiness to work and an openness to life and people.